Teenagers are fun to speak to. There is a high school student who sometimes comes to me for help with Geometry. He was at my house last Sunday and this is how the conversation went .
” Hi . How are you ?”
“OK , I guess.”
” Anything new with you ?”
” Last week I got married …”
” WHAT ? !!”
” Last week I got married …. as a project for my Sociology class”.
” Project ??”.
” Well , they wanted us to learn about marriage . So the teacher paired us up at random and asked us to research what it took to get married . We had to find out about all the requirements before a couple can get married . There was a little problem though . Our class has twenty seven girls and only three boys .”
” So, what did the teacher do ?”
” She paired us up anyway . There were a lot of same-sex marriages that day .
But that’s not important. I never realized that marriage was such a complicated thing . Before you get married , you must have a license , get a blood test , set a date and that’s only the beginning. Then you have to book a wedding hall , hire the DJ , agree on a guest list and a budget, decide on the caterer and the menu and whether you want to have an open bar. And the cost !! I never knew weddings were so expensive ! My “fiancée” and I decided to have a small wedding but even though we tried our best to keep the cost down , it still came to $ 60,000. I’ve decided that when I want to get married for real , I’ll probably get hitched at City Hall, with only my family and a couple of friends . Whatever we save on the wedding can go towards a down payment on a house.”
” Looks like the class really made you think about a lot of things .”
” It sure did . Did you know how much it costs to have a baby ? Guess what it takes for the baby’s first year of life ?.”
” It’s been a long time . Perhaps $ 4,000 ?”
” Ten thousand dollars ! When you add up the doctor’s fees , the hospital charges , the baby clothes , the diapers , the baby food , the baby things , that’s what it comes to. I never thought it would be so much . I’m thinking how long it takes for a couple to save up that much . I do want babies… I guess … but I’m not going to rush to start a family .”
” It does seem like a lot to think about but it’s not as if you have to worry about all of it right now. Millions of people have gone through marriage and kids and the whole shebang and I’m sure you will too. Right now , let’s concentrate on Geometry.””
Later , as my student was leaving , I sent him on his way with the usual ” Take care . Be good . See you next Sunday”.
” This week , I’m getting divorced…”